March 30, 2022

When your words simply mean more
"I am praying for you." If you have ever felt the power of prayer at work in your life, hearing those words is gold. Knowing you are being prayed for calms your spirit in trying times and boosts your spirit when you take on new adventures.

Written By Robert E Logan

Christian Coaching Pioneer, Strategic Ministry Catalyst, Resource Developer, Empowering Consultant : Logan Leadership
When you pray, your words mean more because you are inviting God to show his glory in and through people and situations. As a coach, a habit of prayer for your clients creates investment, builds trust, and results in more powerful coaching conversations.

Intercessory Prayer and Coaching

As such, it isn’t surprising that Intercessory Prayer is one of the essential behavioral expressions of a coach who is Abiding in Christ. Coaching is not only a time commitment and a professional commitment—it’s also a spiritual commitment made to those who are being coached. Coaches need to be intentional and explicit about praying for those they are coaching. 

Intercessory prayer as a part of a coaching relationship can take many different forms. Some keep a list of people they are coaching in a place where they will see it regularly. Others send out emails soliciting specific prayer requests from clients. Some pray as a regular part of opening or closing a session. The best methods will differ for different people, but the best coaches find ways to pray for those they coach. That connection often manifests itself through prayerful contact: writing notes of encouragement, offering networking opportunities, providing open doors to places of ministry, etc. 

words that mean more

Scripture prayer

When you are not sure what you should be praying for people, you can use Scripture passages as your prayer. Some good Scripture prayers include:

  • Colossians 1:9–13
  • Philippians 1:9–11
  • Ephesians 1:15–20 and 3:16–19

30-day challenge

If you are not praying for your clients during your coaching appointments, ask them how you can pray. Then pray with them during all of your appointments for the next 30 days. Afterward, assess the difference this practice makes in you and your clients. Ask how you can pray for your client, and pray for each during your coaching appointment. 

Words that mean more

“If we truly love people, we will desire for them far more than it is within our power to give them, and this will lead us to prayer. Intercession is a way of loving others…. As priests, appointed and anointed by God, we have the honor of going before the Most High on behalf of others. This is not optional; it is a sacred obligation—and a precious privilege—of all who take up the yoke of Christ.” (Richard Foster, Prayer: Finding the Heart’s True Home, p. 191)

Resources

Intercessory Prayer is one of 55 behavioral expressions critical to Christian coaching. If you are determined to offer the very best as a coach, we highly recommend Christian Coaching Excellence. In it, you will find detailed explanations of the 9 Christian coaching competencies and each behavioral expression as well as rating norms to help you determine how well you perform in them, proven ways to grow in each, coaching tips, and more.

If you want an accurate picture of your competence as a coach, there is no substitute for the 360° Christian Coach Assessment. This online tool is the only assessment for Christian coaches that is backed by thorough qualitative research. It clearly and accurately identifies your coaching strengths and areas for improvement. Learn more HERE.

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