Is coaching always the answer?
You heard it here… coaching is not always the best approach. There are times when—as a coach—you will need to switch hats in order to meet the needs of your clients. Here’s when and how.

Written By Gary Reinecke

ICF Master Certified Coach, Resource Designer, Mission Strategist : InFocus
When you have a problem with your car, you want a mechanic to diagnose and fix it.  If you sliced a part of your finger off,  you want an ER doc.  When you need  to get a lift to the airport, you call Uber.  You get my drift—the answer isn’t always the same—different needs require certain expertise.

The 5 Hats You’ll Wear as a Coach

The table below was shared by my friend Micah Dodson of  I found the descriptions of each role helpful to distinguish one from the other.  These roles can easily blur into each other especially if you have a background in teaching, counseling or mentoring and are now adding coaching into your toolkit.  The important point to a newer coach is to be clear in your mind when you are functioning in a particular role or it will confuse and potentially frustrate those you are attempting to help.

Is coaching always the answer?

Each role has a specific function.  Here are the functions along with the scripture reference.  See which ones you resonate with:


Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm. —Proverbs 13:20


Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. —Proverbs 13:20


He is the one we proclaim, admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone fully mature in Christ.Colossians 1:28


 Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.I Corinthians 11:1


The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out. —Proverbs 20:5

* All scripture passages from NIV

You Can Over-Coach

Classic problem I faced parenting my kids. I over-coached them. This surfaced when they were home as young adults during COVID.  I was using questions to help them “do something”.  My approach was making them suspicious of my intent. I was using questions to help them come around to do something I wanted them to do, in the way I wanted them to do it. Manipulation is not the intent of coaching. But that is how it came across. Fortunately, my family pointed this out. I became more aware of what I was doing. I would have been better off to be an Advisor or Teacher, referring to the descriptions above.  

This raises a few important questions that arise when I am training leaders in coaching:

  1. Is coaching always the best answer?
  2. What cues should we look for to determine when to use another approach?
  3. How to make the shift from one approach to another without confusing clients?

Is coaching always the best answer?

No. The answer isn’t always coaching. But, I’ve found the more we can use a coach approach the better.  Realistically, you can blend coaching into each of the other four roles above. I view coaching on a continuum. One end of the continuum is Directive and the other end, Non-directive. The more Non-directive approach, the more likely we can help people discover the answer for themselves. The goal is for the client to feel empowered to take action.  

Of course, when you play that out in each role it becomes obvious when you need to stop asking questions.  Be aware of what the client needs at the moment!  For example, if I take a bad fall on my mountain bike, I need to go to the ER to stop the bleeding!  The only question I want to ask is – “Which way to the hospital?”

What cues should we look for to determine when to use another approach?

The simple answer is when it stops working; like in my example with my kids.  At the peak of frustration they gave me explicit feedback: “Just tell us what you want us to do!”  Before it reaches that point though here are some ques to look for when coaching:

  • Frustration – you are agitating your client more than helping
  • Silence – this can be a sign that your client really does not know what to do
  • Lack of follow-through; the client in not engaged

How to make the shift from one approach to another without confusing clients?

I’ve found that being clear with what role you are playing is respectful to the client – and critical for you.  When it is murky in your mind then it can be confusing or frustrating for the client. For example, when a client is coming to you for answers and you’re operating as a coach then you are going to approach the conversation differently than your client.  

For example, let’s assume you have been serving a client as a coach but you also have the capacity to switch into counselor mode.  When you make the switch it is helpful to signal your client about the switch.  Say something like: “I’m taking off my coaching hat and now putting on my counselor hat.”  

This will have several benefits. First, it will reinforce the shift you are making. Second, it will communicate a shift in the tone of the conversation. Third, it has the potential to accelerate the conversation. The caution here is, only switch when it’s absolutely essential for the client to move forward.  

When the Hat Isn’t Your Size

I’ve found that, to some degree, most coaches can navigate through these 5 roles. That doesn’t mean that everyone is excellent at all 5. The key is to know when your client’s needs surpass the help that you can give them. Like a good General Practitioner, it’s important to know when to send your client to a specialist.   

Assessing your roles

  1. What reflections do you have from the table above?
  2. Of the 5 passages which one resonates with you most?
  3. As you reflect on the 5 roles above, which ones do you naturally gravitate to?
  4. When you are in coach mode, what other roles do you tend to lean towards?
  5. What can you do to stay in a coach mode when you’re in the role you typically operate? 

Coming Soon!

Our latest book, Christian Coaching Essentials is currently at the printers! This book is truly as titled—the essentials you need to learn to become a quality Christian Coach. It’s laid out to help you learn and includes bonus links to dozens of resources to help you get started. We are really excited about it and can’t wait to get the resource in your hands! Keep an eye out for it’s release in the next couple of weeks!

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